Strength
It’s in the being beautiful of who you were created to be.
It’s in the being beautiful of who you were created to be.
It’s in being uniquely you when it would be easier not to.
It’s in the ability to adapt
to all that was in store, set in motion
by God, the Universe, Chaos
whenever you were conceived.
It’s in the ability to weave
yourself, your part of our divine tapestry.
I’m not the person my parents wanted me to be
and learning that was scary
b/c the map they gave me had no bearing on my journey.
I worried they’d think I was crazy…they did.
Or indignant or ignorant, even
those things that are worse…they did.
Despite which, they’d filled my heart with love which
is God and guided me.
I believed in me to do my best
to be the most beautiful me
in love and charity and humility,
that then the people close to me would certainly see
God had made me me.
I believed my family would be at ease
seeing the beautiful person that was me.
What shame is it now, my failure
that my sister closest me, that SHE could finally say
b/c of you I know for sure it’s wrong to be gay.
Because of you
Because of you
Because of you, she said.
What’s left for me to do to prove
My validity to you? Losing you…
it started a crack in my stomach
spread an earthquake in my heart
rattled my body, raging
a tsunami through my eyes, and
aftershocks come each time
I miss you. What day don’t I remember you, in everything?
I’ll never forget you’re mine.
My sister.I promise me my love is earthquake safe.
I’m strong enough to weave
this life, to breathe through disaster.
I promise I’ll be strong enough
to love you to death
I think when a person judges another person it makes it impossible to support them. A lot of people care for other people, but they think the other person should act the way they judge is right for the other person to act and that is not love. We need to look to the fruits of the actions and judge that. I may not agree with someone, but I can see if the fruit of their actions is love. What do I know about what another person should be doing? I can give my opinion, but I don’t have all the information and I could be wrong. If someone produces bad fruit from their actions, I don’t support those actions, but I can still love the person. In that case they would understand the reason for my lack of support, i.e., bad fruit.
ReplyDeleteI wanted to let you know, Halcyon8, that because of you I have come to understand the spiritual meaning of male/female. We are told, “It is the Spirit that gives life, the flesh is of no avail . . .” Jn 6:63 and also,
ReplyDelete“There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” Gal 3:28
When we are speaking of appearances there are definitely people born into categories, but we are told that these do not matter. Why should we judge someone by the flesh? God made man male and female. It is not that he only made according to the flesh one person male and another female, for some are neither male nor female by birth, but he made each person BOTH male AND female. These are two equal, but opposite qualities, like yin/yang that together are a fullness of the goodness of God. It is good if there is a balance between the female/male, yin/yang, dark/light. That is what creates harmony and beauty.
Now, I think it is possible for any relationship to be balanced in female/male energies or to be unbalanced in that respect regardless of the sexes of the persons involved. When two people come together as a couple they should challenge each other to be better people by the inclusion of the energy that the other person lacks and mutual respect. For a relationship like this to work takes maturity, but is very rewarding and teaches us about unconditional love. When two people are too “same” and desire to be in the relationship because of the ease of having a sycophantic relationship and they don’t challenge one another in the area of their lack (not lack in the sense of being bad for every person has their own unique balance of female/male qualities) then there is something intrinsically wrong with them for wanting that kind of relationship. They don’t want to be a better person and learn to love everyone; they just want to feel comfortable in their isolated group.
I agree Ember! Very insightful!
ReplyDeleteHalcy, your strength of love and spirit is inspiring to me...and you're a good writer, to boot!
What do you think about the difference between flourishing in life in general, as a person, vs. love between two people flourishing? Because I interchange the two concepts in my posting and it seems totally normal to me to interchange them.
ReplyDeleteEmber...maybe instead of saying outright that there's something wrong with the same-same's we could say that they're stagnant. And, although stagnancy is something I usually avoid, doesn't it have it's time and place? For example, festering can really highlight a problem, making it more apparent to be able to fix it.
ReplyDeleteI too agree with your point though. I wish the feminist movement had been more about finding harmony than about embracing masculinity at the expense of femininity. They are both equally beautiful. And, personally, I love it that everyone has their own natural mixture of the two. This world would probably be very boring if all of us were right in the middle, 50/50.
You are right to point that out, Halcyon8. I said that in kind of a harsh way. I was thinking about that today.
ReplyDeleteEveryone is on his/her own journey and we do learn from extreems. I just know that I wouldn't be the person that I am if I stayed in a comfort zone, and I like myself a lot, so I guess I'm partial to expansion. I do think it is natural to want to be around people who are like you in many ways, but I don't think we should like to be around people BECAUSE they don't ever see or point out our bad qualities to us, or rather, that we should only limit ourselves to those kinds of relationships.
I'm not sure what you're asking about the flourishing question. Are you saying you think we need the love of others in order to flourish?
ReplyDeleteyes. It's a new thought. What do you think about that concept?
ReplyDeleteThat seems right to me. I think people are likely born with high self-esteem naturally. But depending on the mirroring that we are given as children and young adults we share our true selves more or less with others. It only takes one person to see our worth and tell us they value us as we are to give us the confidence we need to be that person, even if everyone else in our life has not valued our uniqueness. But many times, it seems, we do need that one person to show us that we are of value to someone as we are. Otherwise, our selfworth is only in our head. Why would no one else see our beauty if it were truly of value and beautiful?
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